The Judgment of Robin Williams Wednesday, Aug 20 2014 

In the last two days, my news feed has been filled with many posts of Robin Williams. 95% of those posts were messages of shock, loss, and sadness, along with memories of laughter that he shared with the world. However, 5% of the posts consisted of the most judgmental and most disrespectful thoughts I have ever read about someone’s death.

One post, in particular, truly struck a nerve with me (even more than others). And because of that, I felt compelled to comment. Within minutes, I found that my comment had been removed and that I had been unfriended. I am not sure if my comment just upset him, if he felt that my comment proved him to be wrong in his words, or if he just couldn’t handle someone else’s thoughts on the matter. I will let you be the judge of that.

I will not use his real name, but will refer to him as “Critic,” as not to cause him further embarrassment.

 

Critic’s post:

I do not wish to be controversial in fact in all honesty I told myself I wasn’t going to comment on this. The Lord saw otherwise. I’m both alarmed and disturbed by the amount of Christian posts wishing Robin Williams to rest in peace even with the REPORTS that he committed suicide. (Even while it is reported that he did, in my eyes, only the Lord knows, and now a days who can trust the Media to be true?)

 

Nevertheless, the fact that it is reported and Gods people still say #RIP (REST IN PEACE) to him leads me to a few questions, do we even believe in hell anymore? Do we even believe in John 3:3-5 anymore? Do we even take literal the words of Jesus anymore?

 

I grew up watching Robin Williams as a child, so for me the initial news made my heart sank, then the scripture came to mind “Even in laughter the heart is sorrowful” (Proverbs 14:13). Yes he made us laugh, but was he really smiling on the inside while entertaining millions? The obvious answer maybe NO! And as a result we celebrate and bid his eternal life god speed? Let me ask a question then, exactly WHAT are we celebrating if eternity is supposed to be more important than this life? And If in laughter the heart is still sorrowful? How can one rest in peace in eternity if they could not on earth? It is possible that Robin Williams was born again of water and Spirit and we never knew it, however there may be an even stronger possibility he was not. I am not advocating that we walk around pronouncing people into hell, but what I AM saying is that we should not automatically put blatant sinners in heaven (eternal peace) either. Wake up CHURCH! Who’s side are you on! I’m not judging Robin Williams but I am the church.

 

1st Cor 5:12

“For what have I to do to judge them also that are without? do not ye judge them that are within?”

 

Two comments from others:

 

Kimberly – “Once a person crosses over into eternity, I try not to speak of it.”

 

 

Rachel – ” Critic while I understand where you are coming from there is a such this as WISDOM and in these situations the better part of WISDOM is to simply state “He is now in the hands of a just and merciful God” where his fate will be decided and leave it at that. Anything besides that comes across like we know everything and as very judgmental. We don’t know it ALL! Only God does. As you said yourself media reposts are not always correct which reiterates that God and ONLY God knows what truly happened therefore God and ONLY God can condemn or save his soul. The bible says only God sees and knows a mans heart so why don’t we leave the decision of where his final resting place is to the one that actually bled and died to save him. Hope you have a good rest of your day my brother.”

 

My response:

 

“I could not agree more, Kimberly and Rachel! Otherwise it comes off as cunning judgement. We do not know his level of spirituality, nor where he stood in the plan of salvation in his last days on earth. Only he and God know what occurred from the day of his birth to his last dying breath.

I personally do not use the phrase “Rest in Peace” or “RIP,” because I’ve just never been a fan of it. However, I am quite aware that many do, as a term/phrase of endearment, especially when they don’t know what else to say. It is not necessarily that it is always used literally — positive or negative knowledge in where the soul will rest. Those words are just words of hope and comfort.

The reason that there has been so many posts about him is because he made us all laugh — from Mork & Mindy to Mrs. Doubtfire and many, many more. It is not about the life he led outside of the film industry, it is about the way he made us feel and the way he pulled us “out of the trenches” through laughter. If only we could have done the same for him.

Yes, I celebrated his life and I bid his eternal life god speed… for it should be everyone’s wish and desire to go to Heaven as well as for everyone else to go to Heaven. I will not wish anyone hell speed! I am NOT God and CANNOT nor WILL NOT judge!

Yes, Critic, even in laughter the heart is sorrowful. Yes, he made us laugh, and he apparently he wasn’t smiling inside. However, I do not understand the point you’re trying to make, because no man is completely happy on this earth. We all long for that perfect place without sickness, pain, and death – a lifetime of love and comfort; happiness and peace.

Robin Williams was a father, son, uncle, brother, and friend. He and his family deserve the respect of everyone, ESPECIALLY Christians. It does not matter how he died. Death is death and loss is loss. His family does not need to hear the negative, nor the judgements. They are already struggling with enough pain.

And I’m sorry, Critic, but you made this controversial with your choice of words. Had God been behind your post, He would’ve chosen your words with such eloquence and love, rather than with such judgment and condemnation as were yours. There should be a wisdom in those words, as Rachel said in her comment.”

 

Your words:

 

“It is possible that Robin Williams was born again of water and Spirit and we never knew it, however there may be an even stronger possibility he was not.”

 

“I am not advocating that we walk around pronouncing people to hell, but I AM saying is that we should not automatically put blatant sinners in Heaven (eternal peace) either.”

 

In your words, I find nothing but condemnation and lack of hope.

 

God’s Words:

 

Titus 3:2-7

“To speak evil of no man, to be no brawlers, but gentle, shewing all meekness unto all men. For we ourselves also were sometimes foolish, disobedient, deceived, serving divers lusts and pleasures, living in malice and envy, hateful, and hating one another. But after that the kindness and love of God our Savior toward man appeared, Not by works of righteousness which we have done, but according to his mercy he saved us, by the washing of regeneration, and renewing of the Holy Ghost; Which he shed on us abundantly through Jesus Christ our Savior; That being justified by his grace, we should be made heirs according to the hope of eternal life.”

 

Luke 6:36-37

“Be ye therefore merciful, as your Father also is merciful. Judge not, and ye shall not be judged: condemn not, and ye shall not be condemned: forgive, and ye shall be forgiven.”

 

In God’s words, I find the TRUTH…the truth of hope, grace, and mercy…without condemnation.

 

Robin Williams will be forever remembered as the world's funny man. He will be greatly missed by so many. THANK YOU FOR YEARS OF LAUGHTER!!! 1951-2014

Robin Williams will be forever remembered as the world’s funny man. He will be greatly missed by so many.
THANK YOU FOR YEARS OF LAUGHTER!!!
1951-2014

 

Is it really about Chick-fil-A?? Thursday, Aug 2 2012 

Today, I read the following article about the Chick-fil-A fiasco, which I agreed with and posted on my Facebook timeline.

http://thepublicqueue.com/2012/what-chickfila-appreciation-day-is-really-about/

As a result, this comment, by a Facebook friend, was made:

read phil’s comment about this article and that sums up what christians really think not some reporter who is twisting a few scriptures out of the bible to prove his point. if you really want to know how a christian feels about this, phil’s comment sums it up. God bless

Normally, I would not have much to say to a comment like that; but, this one struck a bit of a nerve.  This was my response:

John 3:17 — For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved.
Mark 12:29-31 — And Jesus answered him, The first of all the commandments is, Hear, O Israel; The Lord our God is one Lord: And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind, and with all thy strength: this is the first commandment. And the second is like, namely this, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. There is none other commandment greater than these.
I’m sorry, but as a fellow CHRISTIAN, I do not see where the author of this article took the Bible’s scriptures out of context. If Jesus was not sent here to condemn this world…then why do we take it upon ourselves to do so!? While the followers of Christ, and even the priests, chose to condemn and ridicule the prostitutes, liars, murderers, thieves, adulterers…Jesus chose to walk with them, to talk with them…and most of all, He chose to LOVE them.
I will take it even a step further, summing up what THIS Christian feels about this, and quote these scriptures….
Luke 6:36-37 — Be ye therefore merciful, as your Father also is merciful. Judge not, and ye shall not be judged: condemn not, and ye shall not be condemned: forgive, and ye shall be forgiven.
1 Peter 3:8-17 — Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous: Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing. For he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that they speak no guile: Let him eschew evil, and do good; let him seek peace, and ensue it. For the eyes of the Lord are over the righteous, and his ears are open unto their prayers: but the face of the Lord is against them that do evil. And who is he that will harm you, if ye be followers of that which is good? But and if ye suffer for righteousness’ sake, happy are ye: and be not afraid of their terror, neither be troubled; But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts: and be ready always to give an answer to every man that asketh you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear: Having a good conscience; that, whereas they speak evil of you, as of evildoers, they may be ashamed that falsely accuse your good conversation in Christ. For it is better, if the will of God be so, that ye suffer for well doing, than for evil doing.
In Luke, Jesus tells us to be merciful – merciful, meaning to be compassionate towards another, as Christ is compassionate towards you. Do not judge, nor condemn another, if you do not want to be judged, nor condemned. Forgive, so that you may also be forgiven. That is pretty self-explanatory…and very clear and concise.
1 Peter teaches us how we, as Christians, should treat each other, as well as our enemies. While it agrees with the idea of standing united for something that you believe in…it also states that when standing united, you are to do so with compassion…courtesy…and….there’s that four letter word again….LOVE!! The scripture says… do not be vicious (evil) and do not complain by being harsh and angry (railing), just because someone else might be. On the contrary, it teaches us to speak love when others speak hate…to speak blessings, when you are being cursed.
In the last few days, I have been very disheartened by the behavior and words of some of my family, friends, and church family. Those of you who have belittled others, flicking your tongues like a serpent… why don’t you try promoting what you love, instead of bashing what you hate!? Sure, we all have a freedom of speech… and rightly so. However, how are you speaking? Are you choosing to speak with hate? Or, are you choosing to speak with sincerity, love, and with the mouth of Christ??
The Bible says again, in Psalms 34:13-14:  Keep thy tongue from evil, and thy lips from speaking guile. Depart from evil, and do good; seek peace, and pursue it.  This, as well as in 1 Peter, is saying be careful of your words. Do not speak hurtful things. Avoid negativity and hatred. Rather, speak with kindness and peace.
“If you earnestly desire that your life should be long, and your days peaceable and prosperous, keep your tongue from reviling, evil-speaking, and slandering, and your lips from lying, deceit, and dissimulation. Avoid doing any real damage or hurt to your neighbour, but be ever ready to do good, and to overcome evil with good; seek peace with all men, and pursue it, though it retire from you. This will be the best way to dispose people to speak well of you, and live peaceably with you.’’
It is ok to take a stand for what you believe in, but do so in a way that is peaceable and for the right reasons. Think about it… Did you stand in line, at Chick-fil-a, to promote freedom of speech? Or, did you stand in line with bitterness and hatred in your hearts, because someone does not believe as you do?
If only we, as Christians, would take this kind of initiative to stand in line, giving $5 or $10, to help an orphan….a homeless man or woman….or a child who has no clothes or food. What if? Think of the difference you can make in so many lives…promoting love….rather than promoting hatred and condemnation.
If someone does not believe as you do, and you feel as they should, do not force feed it down their throats…. that will only cause regurgitation. Speak with peace. Speak with love. Pray for them. Leave it in God’s hands. Humble yourself. Live as Jesus did…. walk with those you do not agree with….talk with them….and most of all….LOVE them. You do not have to open your mind, but you must open your hearts. As HIS word says… It is better for you to suffer for well-doing, than to thrive for evil-doing. For when you seek and speak peace, with all men… you will, indeed, find peace within yourself…and you will be happy.
Again, I reiterate the two greatest commandements… LOVE GOD and LOVE PEOPLE
While hanging on the cross between two sinners, Jesus, himself being condemned, mocked, ridiculed, beaten, and hated by many… He looked at the sinner, who asked to be remembered, and said… “Verily I say unto thee, Today shalt thou be with me in paradise.”  (Luke 23:43)

Are we, as Christians, capable of that kind of love?

~Bek~

How WILLING is your HEART? Wednesday, Jan 12 2011 

Two weeks ago, a friend and I had lunch at one of our local Asian restaurants.  Just as the tradition always is, at the end of the meal, the waitress handed us our ticket along with our fortune cookies.  I, for one, never eat the fortune cookie, but I love to read them.  I carefully squeezed the cookie until it split, revealing a small slip of paper.  I slowly removed it from its crumbled shell and unfolded it.  On this tiny piece of paper, read these profound words:

“Nothing is impossible to a willing heart.”

The literal meaning of this proverb is that nothing is impossible to someone who sets their mind to a particular thing, for it will be achieved.  While this is true, my inquisitive mind began analyzing this phrase to find a deeper meaning.  I carefully repeated this phrase in my mind, “Nothing is impossible to a willing heart.  NOTHING is impossible to a willing heart.”  The more that I said it over and over, the more I realized that the focus should not be on the words ‘nothing’ or ‘impossible,’ but rather on ‘A WILLING HEART.’

The word willing, means ‘cheerfully consenting.’  Heart is defined as the ‘center of total personality, especially with reference to feeling or emotion; capacity for compassion and affection; the vital, or essential core.’

WOW!  Right there, in the definitions of those two words, is the deeper meaning to this profound statement. 

We tend to only look at this proverb as something considered meant for ourselves.  We read it and say, “I can set my mind to something and accomplish it.”  But as I read these words and plugged in these definitions, I realized what I was actually reading.  Nothing is impossible to a WILLING HEART.

Today, in this world, most have forgotten what it means to be a Christian and to love.  We look at people and immediately judge them, not knowing what situation they may be faced with, or how far they have come in life after overcoming struggles.  We have never walked in their shoes, why should we be given the right to judge?  I am guilty of this very thing. 

Just the other day, a man, who I assumed to be homeless, walked up to my friend and I asking for money.  I, cold-heartedly, turned away, while my friend reached into her pocket and pulled out a ten dollar bill.  After he walked away, I asked her why she gave him ten dollars….after all, money is hard to come by and my only concern was what he would do with it.  She then asked me why I chose to turn away and not even consider the fact that out of all the people asking for money, this one might actually be wise with the money she gave him.  It was like a slap in the face to me.  I was put in my place.  In just two seconds, with only a few words from his mouth, I judged him.  Because of her WILLING HEART, she opened a window of possibilites for that man.  IF ONLY I had a willing heart, could it have been possible that he would have taken my ten dollars and used it to buy a hamburger or a new shirt? 

Everyone, I am sure, has heard the phrase, “you can’t judge a book by its cover.”  If we know that, then why does it happen all the time?  Why is it that when someone walks up and introduces themselves, some people think right then and there that the person in front of them isn’t worth their time?  Why is it that assumptions are made, that hinder what could become the greatest friendship, or the greatest love that someone could ever have?  Assumption – taken for granted.  Judgement – the forming of an opinion or conclusion.  How can we just make an assumption or a judgement from only the first impression we get from someone?  Shouldn’t we allow a little time to get to know that person, to hear their story, to know their dreams for their future?  We can choose our friends, and the people we are associated with, but we must first have a WILLING HEART to give them a chance.  It is not our place to judge….It is ALMIGHTY GOD’s!!! 

As Christians, we need to remember that Jesus does not look at us for what we look like, or what and who we are.  He looks inside of each and every one of us.  He looks deep within our hearts.  We, as human beings, should follow after Him and His example.  Even some churches push people away.  Discrimination is a major part of this problem.  A church is a haven…..a hospital…..a place that is supposed to show mercy, care,  and love.  It is not a place that determines who can be there because of the color of their skin or the lifestyle they might lead.  Cliques in the church also drive people away.  There are those who no longer feel accepted or wanted by people.  Although it is not intended that a person go to church for others, to feel unaccepted in a place where God wants EVERYONE to be welcome, is not of WILLING HEARTS.  We should see others as God sees them…….a soul.  It is our purpose, as Christians, to show others the love of Christ.  If we choose to judge others, to make assumptions about others, and to immediately turn our backs towards them….what kind of Christians would we be?  Do you think that God would be pleased?  If you judge someone else, then you should stop and judge yourself for judging them.  Most of all, think about how God is judging you.  Judging is a sin.  No sin is greater than another.  Remember that the next time you assume that someone has great sins upon them….for if you are wrong, you will be the only one with sin.  Have a WILLING HEART, that you might show someone God’s love.  Endless possibilities might open for not only them, but also for you; and because of your WILLING HEART, your light will shine…and you will be blessed. 

By having a WILLING HEART, we become less judgemental, more caring, more thoughtful, more loving, and more understanding.  It is time that we look at others, through the eyes of Christ, just as my friend did.  May our WILLING HEARTS be open….to possibilities….

“Nothing is impossible to a cheerful consenting, vital core of compassion and affection.”

~Bek~

“To get to the rainbow, you have to get through the rain.” Monday, Jan 10 2011 

Each day, I usually post one facebook status.  It always pertains to something that is occurring in my life…my thoughts…my feelings…or what I believe could “hit home” with someone else.  I do not anticipate my statuses to be read by many, nor do I expect them to be this life-changing message.  Most are not my own, but all correlate with me and my life.

Earlier this week, I posted a quote that I read somewhere.  It said:  “To get to the rainbow, you have to get through the rain.”

I do not know the dictator of this quote.  I do not know the mindset, nor the situation that this person may have been in, when this statement was quoted.  What I do know is what went through my mind, when I read it.

2010, for me, was a life-changing year.  The life I had been living for almost six years, was no longer existent.  Everything that I had known….Everything that I had become….Everything that I tried to make the best of through the struggles, fake smiles, and the little hope that was left in that life.  Thoughts of what ifs and regrets.  Worried that I would never make it on my own.  Worried that I would never find myself again, in a whole new world….a new life that was about to begin for me.  The stress of the change overwhelmed my mind and my body.  Struggling with major change in my home and life…..struggling with a tough semester of college….struggling with feelings of uncertainty….and struggling with not knowing how to find ME!!

I am 25 years old and I have been a legal adult for quite some time now.  I had made decisions and choices that were, what I thought at that time, hard.  But it wasn’t until I was faced with the “disassembling” of my life that I truly understood how hard adulthood, and the seriousness of the choices I would be forced to make, can be.  I had tried everything I could to KNOW the answers BEFORE making these decisions.  I did not want to be faced with uncertainty.  I wanted to know what my outcome would be.  I was wrong!!

Our lives are not meant to be lived on OUR terms.  They are meant to be lived on GOD’s terms!!  It was a life that I had chosen to live, but was now a life that I was completely unfamiliar with. My life had become just something that I woke up every morning to, knowing the routine I had to complete just to get through the each day.  I will never know why I began a journey just to watch it end.  Only MY GOD does.  He has a plan and a purpose in every person’s life.  Though we may never understand, we have to hold on to the knowledge that GOD is in control.  We just have to completely SURRENDER ourselves to HIM.  Once I realized that, I fell on my knees and cried out to Him.  I prayed that He would clear my mind from all the fear, all the uncertainty, all the what ifs that would be confronting me in this new chapter of my life.  I prayed for strength and determination.  I prayed that I would, again, find me….not just the me that I once was….but the me that wants more of HIM.  In that moment of tears, of prayers, of renewing my relationship with my Heavenly Father….I began to grow.

His Word says that He will never put more on us than we can bear.  I held on, and am still holding on to that Truth!!  I cannot see the destination that He has for me, but  I have begun my journey, into my new life, with my hand holding on tight to Christ’s.  I no longer want to try and make my life what I want it to be.  I only want God’s will in my life.  I want to follow Him and allow Him to lead me.  His plan, His purpose, is greater than anything that I could ever make for myself.  It is in Him where I find my strength, my hope, my faith; in Him is where I will find MYSELF!!

In 2010, my change…my new life…my journey began.  I have no regrets of the past.  It has helped me become who I am today.

I made it through the rain…..

At the end of 2010, I had the privilege of spending time with three of the most amazing women I know.  Each of these women, in one way or another, have suffered through pain, fear, acceptance, and heartache.  After the small amount of time I was able to share with them, listening to their stories, becoming immersed in their emotions, and witnessing their sweet spirits, filled with the presence of GOD…..I realized that through their pain, they gained strength; through their fear, they gained courage; through their struggle with acceptance, they held on to faith in what they could not see, and became true to themselves; and through their heartache, they truly learned to LOVE.

Their examples….their faith….their trust in GOD…..their lives……THEIR rainbows….    Those things and more, inspired and motivated my desire to be true to ME and follow after God….. and HIS plan for my life……

I closed a chapter of my life in 2010.  My new chapter…my “reconstruction” has begun in 2011.

…..I am chasing after my rainbow

~Bek~

 

2010’s song for my life….