The Judgment of Robin Williams Wednesday, Aug 20 2014 

In the last two days, my news feed has been filled with many posts of Robin Williams. 95% of those posts were messages of shock, loss, and sadness, along with memories of laughter that he shared with the world. However, 5% of the posts consisted of the most judgmental and most disrespectful thoughts I have ever read about someone’s death.

One post, in particular, truly struck a nerve with me (even more than others). And because of that, I felt compelled to comment. Within minutes, I found that my comment had been removed and that I had been unfriended. I am not sure if my comment just upset him, if he felt that my comment proved him to be wrong in his words, or if he just couldn’t handle someone else’s thoughts on the matter. I will let you be the judge of that.

I will not use his real name, but will refer to him as “Critic,” as not to cause him further embarrassment.

 

Critic’s post:

I do not wish to be controversial in fact in all honesty I told myself I wasn’t going to comment on this. The Lord saw otherwise. I’m both alarmed and disturbed by the amount of Christian posts wishing Robin Williams to rest in peace even with the REPORTS that he committed suicide. (Even while it is reported that he did, in my eyes, only the Lord knows, and now a days who can trust the Media to be true?)

 

Nevertheless, the fact that it is reported and Gods people still say #RIP (REST IN PEACE) to him leads me to a few questions, do we even believe in hell anymore? Do we even believe in John 3:3-5 anymore? Do we even take literal the words of Jesus anymore?

 

I grew up watching Robin Williams as a child, so for me the initial news made my heart sank, then the scripture came to mind “Even in laughter the heart is sorrowful” (Proverbs 14:13). Yes he made us laugh, but was he really smiling on the inside while entertaining millions? The obvious answer maybe NO! And as a result we celebrate and bid his eternal life god speed? Let me ask a question then, exactly WHAT are we celebrating if eternity is supposed to be more important than this life? And If in laughter the heart is still sorrowful? How can one rest in peace in eternity if they could not on earth? It is possible that Robin Williams was born again of water and Spirit and we never knew it, however there may be an even stronger possibility he was not. I am not advocating that we walk around pronouncing people into hell, but what I AM saying is that we should not automatically put blatant sinners in heaven (eternal peace) either. Wake up CHURCH! Who’s side are you on! I’m not judging Robin Williams but I am the church.

 

1st Cor 5:12

“For what have I to do to judge them also that are without? do not ye judge them that are within?”

 

Two comments from others:

 

Kimberly – “Once a person crosses over into eternity, I try not to speak of it.”

 

 

Rachel – ” Critic while I understand where you are coming from there is a such this as WISDOM and in these situations the better part of WISDOM is to simply state “He is now in the hands of a just and merciful God” where his fate will be decided and leave it at that. Anything besides that comes across like we know everything and as very judgmental. We don’t know it ALL! Only God does. As you said yourself media reposts are not always correct which reiterates that God and ONLY God knows what truly happened therefore God and ONLY God can condemn or save his soul. The bible says only God sees and knows a mans heart so why don’t we leave the decision of where his final resting place is to the one that actually bled and died to save him. Hope you have a good rest of your day my brother.”

 

My response:

 

“I could not agree more, Kimberly and Rachel! Otherwise it comes off as cunning judgement. We do not know his level of spirituality, nor where he stood in the plan of salvation in his last days on earth. Only he and God know what occurred from the day of his birth to his last dying breath.

I personally do not use the phrase “Rest in Peace” or “RIP,” because I’ve just never been a fan of it. However, I am quite aware that many do, as a term/phrase of endearment, especially when they don’t know what else to say. It is not necessarily that it is always used literally — positive or negative knowledge in where the soul will rest. Those words are just words of hope and comfort.

The reason that there has been so many posts about him is because he made us all laugh — from Mork & Mindy to Mrs. Doubtfire and many, many more. It is not about the life he led outside of the film industry, it is about the way he made us feel and the way he pulled us “out of the trenches” through laughter. If only we could have done the same for him.

Yes, I celebrated his life and I bid his eternal life god speed… for it should be everyone’s wish and desire to go to Heaven as well as for everyone else to go to Heaven. I will not wish anyone hell speed! I am NOT God and CANNOT nor WILL NOT judge!

Yes, Critic, even in laughter the heart is sorrowful. Yes, he made us laugh, and he apparently he wasn’t smiling inside. However, I do not understand the point you’re trying to make, because no man is completely happy on this earth. We all long for that perfect place without sickness, pain, and death – a lifetime of love and comfort; happiness and peace.

Robin Williams was a father, son, uncle, brother, and friend. He and his family deserve the respect of everyone, ESPECIALLY Christians. It does not matter how he died. Death is death and loss is loss. His family does not need to hear the negative, nor the judgements. They are already struggling with enough pain.

And I’m sorry, Critic, but you made this controversial with your choice of words. Had God been behind your post, He would’ve chosen your words with such eloquence and love, rather than with such judgment and condemnation as were yours. There should be a wisdom in those words, as Rachel said in her comment.”

 

Your words:

 

“It is possible that Robin Williams was born again of water and Spirit and we never knew it, however there may be an even stronger possibility he was not.”

 

“I am not advocating that we walk around pronouncing people to hell, but I AM saying is that we should not automatically put blatant sinners in Heaven (eternal peace) either.”

 

In your words, I find nothing but condemnation and lack of hope.

 

God’s Words:

 

Titus 3:2-7

“To speak evil of no man, to be no brawlers, but gentle, shewing all meekness unto all men. For we ourselves also were sometimes foolish, disobedient, deceived, serving divers lusts and pleasures, living in malice and envy, hateful, and hating one another. But after that the kindness and love of God our Savior toward man appeared, Not by works of righteousness which we have done, but according to his mercy he saved us, by the washing of regeneration, and renewing of the Holy Ghost; Which he shed on us abundantly through Jesus Christ our Savior; That being justified by his grace, we should be made heirs according to the hope of eternal life.”

 

Luke 6:36-37

“Be ye therefore merciful, as your Father also is merciful. Judge not, and ye shall not be judged: condemn not, and ye shall not be condemned: forgive, and ye shall be forgiven.”

 

In God’s words, I find the TRUTH…the truth of hope, grace, and mercy…without condemnation.

 

Robin Williams will be forever remembered as the world's funny man. He will be greatly missed by so many. THANK YOU FOR YEARS OF LAUGHTER!!! 1951-2014

Robin Williams will be forever remembered as the world’s funny man. He will be greatly missed by so many.
THANK YOU FOR YEARS OF LAUGHTER!!!
1951-2014

 

You Have A Choice!!! Wednesday, Feb 5 2014 

735178_10200242197079716_77444777_n After reading several statuses, on Facebook, in the past few days, I thought I should share this: I used to question why things have happened to me – why have people treated me as they have – referring to past relationships, past friendships, etc. I would get so tired of being used, hurt, talked down to, made to feel guilty, and rejected.  Yet, I have never been one who enjoys drama (except the kind of drama found on TV and in movies – you have to have a little SVU, in your life!!).  I steer clear of drama, every chance I get, trying to keep the peace, as much as possible.  At times, I have felt manipulated, and only wanted around when needed; at times, I was.  Many times, I felt played; many times, I was.  But, it was easier to just keep my opinions to myself, to just do what I was asked, to give more than what was being received – not because I’m a pushover… again, I was keeping the peace.  You see, I was always told to “be me.”  I didn’t like how others were treating me.  I didn’t want to be like them.  So, I gave of myself, how I would hope others would be to me.  I still do. While reading those certain statuses, that I mentioned earlier, I saw in them pain, hurt, bitterness, rejection.  I saw anger, depression, and shame.  I saw blame, manipulation, and control – blaming another for something (which, may have indeed been true), but allowing that persons actions to eventually control their own; hence, the cross-manipulation, bitterness, anger, resentment, etc.  Sure, my life has not been the easiest.  These last few years – 2010 & 2011 – were two of my hardest years.  2012, was on the verge of that as well, but during my hardest month, of 2012, I was told something that really struck me:

No one can control the actions of others. But, what can be controlled is how you allow others to treat you…and how you react to it.

“No one can make you feel inferior, without your consent.” – Eleanor Roosevelt “Men will treat you the way you let them.” – Tucker Max The realization came to me… It is perfectly acceptable to “be me,” but it is also perfectly acceptable to set boundaries for myself.  I cannot solely fault those, who have hurt or used me, for their actions, for it has been my actions that have decided, in the end, what “happened to me.”  I said all of that, to say this… if you feel used, don’t allow yourself to be used again.  Be you and be there for that person, yet set your boundaries! You may not be able to jump and fulfill their every need… DO THEY HELP YOU TOO?  If you feel manipulated, don’t manipulate back… STAND UP FOR YOURSELF!  YOU DESERVE BETTER!  If someone hurts you.. TELL THEM.. TALK IT OUT.. DO NOT HURT BACK!  (If you do, you’re only stooping to their level.)  If you’re being played… again, you deserve better.  Someone who loves you and cares about you will NOT play you… WALK AWAY!!!!  If you have been rejected… that was that person’s loss… don’t keep looking at the door that’s closed.. there is someone else waiting for you to see them… OPEN THE NEXT DOOR!!!  Be with the person that knows what they have when they have you… not after they lose you. You may think you have such a horrible life, but you’re making it horrible, by dwelling on what is done and cannot be changed.  At this moment, you have the right to change your story’s ending.  Start writing the next chapter.  Stop worrying yourself, with the actions of others.  Sure it’s ok to question, but start controlling the way you deal with it. You may have been the victim, but you have a choice whether or not to stay the victim.  You also have the choice whether or not to be the next offender.  FORGIVE AND MOVE ON!!!!! STOP POSTING YOUR PROBLEMS ON FACEBOOK…. and BE HAPPY FOR THE THINGS THAT ARE GOING RIGHT IN YOUR LIFE!!! Live life knowing that, no matter what others have done, or chose to do to you, you gave it your best shot… for yourself, and for others.  Let people know how you want to be treated.  Place your boundaries.  Don’t lose yourself in others. Stop concerning yourself with trying to make someone else a better person… BE A BETTER YOU!!! Remember this… Disempowerment is YOUR CHOICE and ONLY YOURS!!!   ~Bek

No matter the outcome Tuesday, Oct 9 2012 


Words left unsaid. Chances not taken. Opportunities missed. Questions left unanswered.

That was who I was and how I lived. Afraid. Afraid of the what-ifs. Afraid of the rejections. Afraid of hurting and being hurt. Afraid.

I stepped back… I reevaluated my life, realizing that I could no longer live my life full of fear of the what-ifs. I have to live, reaching for the possibilities of what ‘could be,’ not the regrets of never knowing ‘what could have been.’

“While you’re standing there trying to decide whether or not to get the net, the butterfly is flying away.”

I may be too late. I may miss out. But, at least, I know that I tried. At least, I took a chance, no matter the outcome.

Don’t live in fear. Live in hope. Hope of new possibilities. Hope of dreams come true. Hope of the life you’ve been searching for. Hope in the unknown…..

“At any given moment you have the power to say: This is not how the story is going to end.”

Are you living or just existing? Tuesday, Mar 1 2011 

Each day we awake….we open our eyes….we breathe…

We awake with a choice….

A choice to exist…..or a choice to live….

What’s the difference?

To exist is to have life….

To live is to be alive….

Life is the general or universal condition of human existance….

But to be alive….to be alive is to have the quality of life…..to abound…

I don’t want to wake each day to the same routine…

I want to make each day truly matter….

To live like each day is my last…

I refuse to settle.

I think back to the three amazing women I had the priviledge to spend Christmas with….

One showed me that even through heartache….unconditional love exists…

Another showed me that acceptance isn’t everything….but to be true to yourself and to God is what completely matters…

The third showed me that come what may….through pain and fear….I can find strength….I can find courage….I can hold on to hope and faith…

I began on a journey this year….

a journey to chase after my rainbow….

At the end of 2010 I grasped that rainbow….

Though I am fighting the storm coming against me….

I am holding on…

Because I don’t want to just exist…

I want to live like I were dying….

To live my life to the fullest…

To take it all in…

To be happy…

To love…

TO BE ALIVE!!!

Will you choose to exist or to live?  Will you choose to have life or to be alive?

I Hope You Dance

~Bek~

“To get to the rainbow, you have to get through the rain.” Monday, Jan 10 2011 

Each day, I usually post one facebook status.  It always pertains to something that is occurring in my life…my thoughts…my feelings…or what I believe could “hit home” with someone else.  I do not anticipate my statuses to be read by many, nor do I expect them to be this life-changing message.  Most are not my own, but all correlate with me and my life.

Earlier this week, I posted a quote that I read somewhere.  It said:  “To get to the rainbow, you have to get through the rain.”

I do not know the dictator of this quote.  I do not know the mindset, nor the situation that this person may have been in, when this statement was quoted.  What I do know is what went through my mind, when I read it.

2010, for me, was a life-changing year.  The life I had been living for almost six years, was no longer existent.  Everything that I had known….Everything that I had become….Everything that I tried to make the best of through the struggles, fake smiles, and the little hope that was left in that life.  Thoughts of what ifs and regrets.  Worried that I would never make it on my own.  Worried that I would never find myself again, in a whole new world….a new life that was about to begin for me.  The stress of the change overwhelmed my mind and my body.  Struggling with major change in my home and life…..struggling with a tough semester of college….struggling with feelings of uncertainty….and struggling with not knowing how to find ME!!

I am 25 years old and I have been a legal adult for quite some time now.  I had made decisions and choices that were, what I thought at that time, hard.  But it wasn’t until I was faced with the “disassembling” of my life that I truly understood how hard adulthood, and the seriousness of the choices I would be forced to make, can be.  I had tried everything I could to KNOW the answers BEFORE making these decisions.  I did not want to be faced with uncertainty.  I wanted to know what my outcome would be.  I was wrong!!

Our lives are not meant to be lived on OUR terms.  They are meant to be lived on GOD’s terms!!  It was a life that I had chosen to live, but was now a life that I was completely unfamiliar with. My life had become just something that I woke up every morning to, knowing the routine I had to complete just to get through the each day.  I will never know why I began a journey just to watch it end.  Only MY GOD does.  He has a plan and a purpose in every person’s life.  Though we may never understand, we have to hold on to the knowledge that GOD is in control.  We just have to completely SURRENDER ourselves to HIM.  Once I realized that, I fell on my knees and cried out to Him.  I prayed that He would clear my mind from all the fear, all the uncertainty, all the what ifs that would be confronting me in this new chapter of my life.  I prayed for strength and determination.  I prayed that I would, again, find me….not just the me that I once was….but the me that wants more of HIM.  In that moment of tears, of prayers, of renewing my relationship with my Heavenly Father….I began to grow.

His Word says that He will never put more on us than we can bear.  I held on, and am still holding on to that Truth!!  I cannot see the destination that He has for me, but  I have begun my journey, into my new life, with my hand holding on tight to Christ’s.  I no longer want to try and make my life what I want it to be.  I only want God’s will in my life.  I want to follow Him and allow Him to lead me.  His plan, His purpose, is greater than anything that I could ever make for myself.  It is in Him where I find my strength, my hope, my faith; in Him is where I will find MYSELF!!

In 2010, my change…my new life…my journey began.  I have no regrets of the past.  It has helped me become who I am today.

I made it through the rain…..

At the end of 2010, I had the privilege of spending time with three of the most amazing women I know.  Each of these women, in one way or another, have suffered through pain, fear, acceptance, and heartache.  After the small amount of time I was able to share with them, listening to their stories, becoming immersed in their emotions, and witnessing their sweet spirits, filled with the presence of GOD…..I realized that through their pain, they gained strength; through their fear, they gained courage; through their struggle with acceptance, they held on to faith in what they could not see, and became true to themselves; and through their heartache, they truly learned to LOVE.

Their examples….their faith….their trust in GOD…..their lives……THEIR rainbows….    Those things and more, inspired and motivated my desire to be true to ME and follow after God….. and HIS plan for my life……

I closed a chapter of my life in 2010.  My new chapter…my “reconstruction” has begun in 2011.

…..I am chasing after my rainbow

~Bek~

 

2010’s song for my life….